Thursday, November 22, 2018

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work | John M.Gottman & Nan Silver

Save your marriage with science!

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This book saved our marriage

Seriously—No joke!

 

I got the audiobook and on a 5 hour drive with my wife I "nonchalantly" turned it on.
It was great! We immediately saw ourselves in the first chapters!

Just the first three chapters will help immediately...

What I like about this book is that it blows A LOT of myths apart...


For example non-violent communication: with all of these typical advisors today, giving the old standby generic advice like "communicating is the number one way to save a marriage"...well these have been proven to be FALSE as ****!

As a matter fact some of the most successful couples fight like cats and dogs!


But what I really like about this book is that it's something you can do together:


In Chapter 5 and 6 you really need a piece of paper and pen, and you really have to do these things together and they've all been proven by science...
16 years of observing couples, unsuccessful AND successful couples!




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Get the Print Book HERE

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Get the Audiobook HERE 

Get the MP3 CD HERE

 Your First Quick Win!

One of the first and most effective techniques is to recognize "the 4 Horsemen" in every conversation.
These 4 Horsemen RUIN your communication with your spouse.
It is important to STOP them; on both sides - you and your spouse. 

The 4 Horsemen are:
  • Criticism
  • Contempt
  • Defensiveness
  • Stonewalling
You can download this 4 Horsemen tracker here for free!
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FREE 8.5 x 11" PDF Download - ready to Print!



Every time you notice you or your spouse DOING one of them, make sure to take a note and make a RED X in the box.
There are two rows of 14 boxes. 
One for you, one for your spouse.
Example:
  • Your spouse takes the top row,
  • you take the bottom row.
The goal is to have a CLEAN SLATE with zero red X's at the end of the week! 

Click here and start improving your marriage now: